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Wayne D Davis
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Mark K, this is the best post I believe I've seen here. Very touching. Blessed to be a blessing bud!!!
Guys, I truly appreciate the comments and I hope no one thinks this was meant as “bragging”. Personally I think my wife and I need committed, lol!
This was something that just happened. It was implied in court by opposing council that we weren’t supposed to “love” the child, just to take care of him for a while. I consider myself a mans man, but we did what anyone of y’all would have done, We fell in love with a child that wasn’t loved or wanted at that time and decided that we wanted the best for him. Whether it was us or another couple, the child deserved better than what the biological parents would provide. (His biological mother recently made the news...even while in jail).
Again, thanks so much for the comments. We are not perfect parents or people, we just cared. And, we have a heck of a lot of support from friends and family (who also think we are crazy)!
This was something that just happened. It was implied in court by opposing council that we weren’t supposed to “love” the child, just to take care of him for a while. I consider myself a mans man, but we did what anyone of y’all would have done, We fell in love with a child that wasn’t loved or wanted at that time and decided that we wanted the best for him. Whether it was us or another couple, the child deserved better than what the biological parents would provide. (His biological mother recently made the news...even while in jail).
Again, thanks so much for the comments. We are not perfect parents or people, we just cared. And, we have a heck of a lot of support from friends and family (who also think we are crazy)!
plumber_1969
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Dep6
Senior Member
Congratulations!!
jdgator
Senior Member
I hope this gives more people the courage to take the next step...
That is awesome!
fredw
Retired Moderator
Mark, I'm not as active on Woody's as I once was and just now saw your post.
What wonderful news! I can only imagine the elation you and the wife must feel. God bless the both of you for what you've done to make a real difference in the life of CJ. My hat is off to you.
What wonderful news! I can only imagine the elation you and the wife must feel. God bless the both of you for what you've done to make a real difference in the life of CJ. My hat is off to you.
Thank you Mr.Fred. Your words mean a lot to me.
Here’s what I posted on FB a year to the date we got him. Sorta long I know, but it answered some questions at the time...
October 18, 2014 started out like any normal day. It was the opening day of rifle season here in Georgia and if I remember correctly it was a little cool. Angie decided to hunt with us that morning which wasn't too strange. Always love it when the wife goes! Little did I know this would be the only time she went last year. I know she saw one deer but claimed it was too small to shoot.
After the hunt we went home and Angie cooked her "famous" breakfast for us, again not out of the norm but not expected after getting up early herself to hunt. After breakfast I told her I was just gonna snooze in the recliner and wait for College football to come on. I asked if she was taking a nap and she said she had to go to town. I asked if she wanted me to go, and she said no. Again that's normal. When I asked if she was gonna take a nap first she said no. Now that's not normal, lol!
Well, after being gone for a few hours she returns with someone that would change our lives from that moment until this very day!
She walks in carrying a baby car seat. My first thought was someone we know is having a baby shower and this is a gift. But, gifts don't consist of an actual baby in the baby car seat!! My first words were, "I don't know where you got it, but take it back!!!!" She replied she couldn't! I told her, "Take it back and get a refund!!" Again she said she couldn't. I then said, "Tell me where you got it and I'll pay them to take it back!!" Then she replied it's just for 45 days. 45 days?? That would mean Thanksgiving!! That would mean the Rut!!
Needless to say I wasn't a happy camper!! I was 46 years old! My "baby" would be 16 in a few months!! I was just really enjoying extra money, freedom, sleep, etc...
I was so ticked about the whole ordeal I didn't even hunt that afternoon. I finally asked Angie what it's name was and she replied CJ. I asked what it stood for and she said the mothers and fathers initials. She couldn't pronounce his real name. I thought great, initials for a baby, how wonderful is this!!
The baby hadn't made a sound the whole afternoon and Angie decided to try and smooth things over to go get my favorite dinner from a local restaurant. She said she wouldn't be gone more than 15 minutes. She said me and Zac could handle it! She had no more backed out the driveway and I heard this LOUD ****! I turned to Zac and said that was impressive!! He had this funny look and said I thought that was you. We both turned white as ghost when the quiet baby started this ear splitting scream. I thought of calling 911, but thought about jail time for calling them to change a diaper!! Started to call the wife back, but she was getting FOOD! I told Zac we got this!!
It had been almost 15 years since I had done this. It was like riding a bike, right?? Not sure what that kid had eaten but it came out as quarantined waste! 2 diapers, messed up the first one, and a box of wipes later and we had it changed!! Now this baby wouldn't quit crying!! I tried rocking, walking, and every other trick I could muster from an aging memory! Nothing worked!! Finally Angie got home and somehow consoled the screaming demon to a soft whimper. I could see then, this was going to be a long "45" days!!
For the next "45" days I learned a lot. I learned what it was like to have a baby born with over 7 different drugs in his system. I learned what it was like to take a baby in that had no interaction with its "mother" his first 5 days of life. (To this day he still won't hug or lay his head on your shoulder). I learned what drug addicts go through during withdrawals. I learned that because of withdrawals, certain meds couldn't be used for tummy and other issues! Some meds would just feed the addiction. I learned that we, mostly the wife, can actually function on less that 4 hours of sleep a day for 7, SEVEN, straight months!!!
Most of all, I learned that I can LOVE! After the "45" days the mother still hadn't tested clean and the state was going to take the baby unless we intervened. So, we became temporary guardians.
All was good. We made good money. Made a sacrifices in sleeping arrangements. Put up with all the rumors about the baby. Saw our boys take to the baby as their own. Saw my family and parents offer unconditional love, even if they thought we were crazy, lol. All was good.
You know "good" never last forever. All of a sudden, all of the things we were used to doing came to a halt in a big way. This baby was a bigger investment than we anticipated. Our savings went then it was almost paycheck to paycheck. Angie had to cut back on her work and the state insurance didn't cover all the meds baby CJ needed. Certain Specialist that he needed weren't covered either. We have two extra vehicles and two extra drivers, lol. And a son in college. ** Just want to take a second here and let everyone know, WE GET NO MONEY FROM THE GOVERNMENT! The only thing the state provided for was his formula (that he was allergic to) and medical insurance that only covers certain things! His formula he had to have was $58 a can.
On top of that, at about 3 or 4 months the "parents" decided they want the baby back. Just so happens they had been collecting food stamps on him and got cut off when the state realized they didn't even have the baby! Would I have had too much pride to use them if we got them?? Normally yes, but things were and still are tough at times, so yeah I would load the buggy right now!!
Looking at our post over the last year things might look normal. But trust me, a middle aged couple with a baby, is anything but normal. This post wasn't meant for sympathy or accolades. It was meant a little to my friends I turn down on trips. Can't afford things like we used to.
We have a motto in our house, you come in and we will love and protect you until our last breath. Most don't know, and maybe I shouldn't post this, but we have had several death threats made against us. LEO's are looking into it, but know this, my entire family is MORE than capable of defending this baby and each other and would do so without prejudice. The only thing in this world I fear is God and big spiders! And an angry woman sometimes. Other than that death threats against me don't bother me. Death threats against my family will result in me in prison and the other in the grave.
October 18, 2014 was a day that started out just like any other. Except this particular day God decided I needed another Son!
I love you baby CJ, my Lil' Man!!
October 18, 2014 started out like any normal day. It was the opening day of rifle season here in Georgia and if I remember correctly it was a little cool. Angie decided to hunt with us that morning which wasn't too strange. Always love it when the wife goes! Little did I know this would be the only time she went last year. I know she saw one deer but claimed it was too small to shoot.
After the hunt we went home and Angie cooked her "famous" breakfast for us, again not out of the norm but not expected after getting up early herself to hunt. After breakfast I told her I was just gonna snooze in the recliner and wait for College football to come on. I asked if she was taking a nap and she said she had to go to town. I asked if she wanted me to go, and she said no. Again that's normal. When I asked if she was gonna take a nap first she said no. Now that's not normal, lol!
Well, after being gone for a few hours she returns with someone that would change our lives from that moment until this very day!
She walks in carrying a baby car seat. My first thought was someone we know is having a baby shower and this is a gift. But, gifts don't consist of an actual baby in the baby car seat!! My first words were, "I don't know where you got it, but take it back!!!!" She replied she couldn't! I told her, "Take it back and get a refund!!" Again she said she couldn't. I then said, "Tell me where you got it and I'll pay them to take it back!!" Then she replied it's just for 45 days. 45 days?? That would mean Thanksgiving!! That would mean the Rut!!
Needless to say I wasn't a happy camper!! I was 46 years old! My "baby" would be 16 in a few months!! I was just really enjoying extra money, freedom, sleep, etc...
I was so ticked about the whole ordeal I didn't even hunt that afternoon. I finally asked Angie what it's name was and she replied CJ. I asked what it stood for and she said the mothers and fathers initials. She couldn't pronounce his real name. I thought great, initials for a baby, how wonderful is this!!
The baby hadn't made a sound the whole afternoon and Angie decided to try and smooth things over to go get my favorite dinner from a local restaurant. She said she wouldn't be gone more than 15 minutes. She said me and Zac could handle it! She had no more backed out the driveway and I heard this LOUD ****! I turned to Zac and said that was impressive!! He had this funny look and said I thought that was you. We both turned white as ghost when the quiet baby started this ear splitting scream. I thought of calling 911, but thought about jail time for calling them to change a diaper!! Started to call the wife back, but she was getting FOOD! I told Zac we got this!!
It had been almost 15 years since I had done this. It was like riding a bike, right?? Not sure what that kid had eaten but it came out as quarantined waste! 2 diapers, messed up the first one, and a box of wipes later and we had it changed!! Now this baby wouldn't quit crying!! I tried rocking, walking, and every other trick I could muster from an aging memory! Nothing worked!! Finally Angie got home and somehow consoled the screaming demon to a soft whimper. I could see then, this was going to be a long "45" days!!
For the next "45" days I learned a lot. I learned what it was like to have a baby born with over 7 different drugs in his system. I learned what it was like to take a baby in that had no interaction with its "mother" his first 5 days of life. (To this day he still won't hug or lay his head on your shoulder). I learned what drug addicts go through during withdrawals. I learned that because of withdrawals, certain meds couldn't be used for tummy and other issues! Some meds would just feed the addiction. I learned that we, mostly the wife, can actually function on less that 4 hours of sleep a day for 7, SEVEN, straight months!!!
Most of all, I learned that I can LOVE! After the "45" days the mother still hadn't tested clean and the state was going to take the baby unless we intervened. So, we became temporary guardians.
All was good. We made good money. Made a sacrifices in sleeping arrangements. Put up with all the rumors about the baby. Saw our boys take to the baby as their own. Saw my family and parents offer unconditional love, even if they thought we were crazy, lol. All was good.
You know "good" never last forever. All of a sudden, all of the things we were used to doing came to a halt in a big way. This baby was a bigger investment than we anticipated. Our savings went then it was almost paycheck to paycheck. Angie had to cut back on her work and the state insurance didn't cover all the meds baby CJ needed. Certain Specialist that he needed weren't covered either. We have two extra vehicles and two extra drivers, lol. And a son in college. ** Just want to take a second here and let everyone know, WE GET NO MONEY FROM THE GOVERNMENT! The only thing the state provided for was his formula (that he was allergic to) and medical insurance that only covers certain things! His formula he had to have was $58 a can.
On top of that, at about 3 or 4 months the "parents" decided they want the baby back. Just so happens they had been collecting food stamps on him and got cut off when the state realized they didn't even have the baby! Would I have had too much pride to use them if we got them?? Normally yes, but things were and still are tough at times, so yeah I would load the buggy right now!!
Looking at our post over the last year things might look normal. But trust me, a middle aged couple with a baby, is anything but normal. This post wasn't meant for sympathy or accolades. It was meant a little to my friends I turn down on trips. Can't afford things like we used to.
We have a motto in our house, you come in and we will love and protect you until our last breath. Most don't know, and maybe I shouldn't post this, but we have had several death threats made against us. LEO's are looking into it, but know this, my entire family is MORE than capable of defending this baby and each other and would do so without prejudice. The only thing in this world I fear is God and big spiders! And an angry woman sometimes. Other than that death threats against me don't bother me. Death threats against my family will result in me in prison and the other in the grave.
October 18, 2014 was a day that started out just like any other. Except this particular day God decided I needed another Son!
I love you baby CJ, my Lil' Man!!
Duff
Senior Member
WOW! What a story and what kind, loving, unselfish people, you and your family are. Truly amazing!
alwayslookin
Senior Member
Wow, thanks for sharing. CJ is a lucky lil' guy to have found his way into your home. God bless y'all.
SC Hunter
Senior Member
That post from facebook brought a tear to my eye. If nothing else little CJ will know what its like to be loved and cared for. Much more than he would have had with his biological parents. Good Job Mark!
Jim Boyd
Senior Member
You and your family, sir, are to be commended.
God smiles on people like you.
God smiles on people like you.
Hillbilly stalker
Senior Member
I recognized this post as special from the beginning . Little do we know what life has in store for us. I didn't share it with my wife, but much to my surprise ....I now find myself in the middle of that same 45 day period with this little man. He is family, but the parents aren't hitting on much. He tested positive for 3 substances, but he seems to be fine now. He has since tested clean. He is a blessing, but I was told once there's a reason the Lord don't let old people have babies lol ! Thing do sure nuff get turned around, especially with a little one that's used to staying up till 3 am and not on any kind of a schedule. Im 52 and my wife's 50, but he is like that little pink bunny on tv..he don't stop. He is the sweetest little baby I've been around. Mark K I ain't trying to steal your thunder, just letting you know you got a team mate brother. I found out yesterday it's gonna be longer than 45 days.
No sir, not stealing thunder...just adding to the blessings.
I’m 51 and the wife will be the same in November. I will say this, you learn to adapt, lol! It gets easier...sorta. Or either we have just learned to handle it. One thing about it, they’ll keep us young!! In fact, just bought me a new superduper nerf gun yesterday!! Got tired of getting the old cheap one that wouldn’t work half the time, lol!! Nerf gun battles every afternoon after I get home from work!!
Hillbilly stalker
Senior Member
Yeah, my wife caught me on camera crawling around on the floor chasing “the boy “. She thought it was hilarious. And no I won’t be sharing that picture lol. Life is good.
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