My Dear Wife whom I love dearly simply cannot give up the cigarettes. She has a very large hernia on her right hip, which will eventually end her life. She’s 52 years old, and the surgeons will not do the surgery unless she has been tobacco free for 3 months. I’ve pleaded, begged, prayed, had groups pray over her, patches, electronic, pills, gum, lozenges, all to no avail. I feel trapped to a destiny of caring for a terminally ill spouse that put both her and I in a position that’s completely self inflicted. We’ve only been married 5 years, and I have told her that I did not foresee running a nursing home for someone or burying that can’t make a sacrifice for our future, and more important, HER future. I know the whole “in sickness and in health” thing, but don’t feel right if it’s self inflicted. A real issue for me...anyone been in my shoes?