transfixer
Senior Member
A young boy in a situation like this usually does enjoy doing things with a father figure, even though they may not admit it, but on the flip side it reminds them that they haven't had a father in their life, or if there is one, why doesn't he want to spend time with me ? It depends on what the young man dwells on, in my case my stepson enjoyed doing things with me, but it also made him angrier at his real dad because he chose not to do those things with his son.
One thing I reminded my stepson of more than once was I wasn't trying to replace his father,, I was simply trying to help him learn things I thought every young man needed to know, and do things I didn't want him to miss out on, and hopefully show him to act and handle things once he was grown and out in the world.
Thats why I think another young person pointing out to the young man that your involvement is a good thing can be valueable, A church can be very beneficial to some young people, just depends on their outlook of life, if they are very realistic and put stock in what is tangible, it may not help, it all depends on the child or young person, most young people aren't philosophers or deep thinkers,
One thing I reminded my stepson of more than once was I wasn't trying to replace his father,, I was simply trying to help him learn things I thought every young man needed to know, and do things I didn't want him to miss out on, and hopefully show him to act and handle things once he was grown and out in the world.
Thats why I think another young person pointing out to the young man that your involvement is a good thing can be valueable, A church can be very beneficial to some young people, just depends on their outlook of life, if they are very realistic and put stock in what is tangible, it may not help, it all depends on the child or young person, most young people aren't philosophers or deep thinkers,