ssramage
Senior Member
Guys,
I could use some Dad advice. In the grand scheme of things, this is really a non-issue and I'm 100% making it more than it is. I realize that, but a sounding board other than my wife is needed...
A little background: I have 3 kids. A son that's 9, a son that's 5, and a daughter that's 4. My oldest son is an awesome kid. Polite, humble, smart, loves the outdoors, and loves Jesus. He loves sports, especially baseball and football.
Here's my problem... as much as he likes sports, he's very timid and just isn't physical enough. As much as he loves the games, he's finding it very hard to be competitive in his age group and becomes frustrated. I can recognize it as a mental obstacle and a lack of confidence that's preventing the switch from flipping to physicality. We also live in an age of coaches wanting everyone to be a winner and tough coaching doesn't exist anymore. Unfortunately, that problem is worse where we live.
I'm walking a fine line of trying not to be "that parent" and also trying to introduce and coach some physicality into a young man. I didn't have this problem as a kid and am struggling with how to encourage it without going too far. At the end of the day, it may just not be for him, but he'll have to decide that.
Any advice?
I could use some Dad advice. In the grand scheme of things, this is really a non-issue and I'm 100% making it more than it is. I realize that, but a sounding board other than my wife is needed...
A little background: I have 3 kids. A son that's 9, a son that's 5, and a daughter that's 4. My oldest son is an awesome kid. Polite, humble, smart, loves the outdoors, and loves Jesus. He loves sports, especially baseball and football.
Here's my problem... as much as he likes sports, he's very timid and just isn't physical enough. As much as he loves the games, he's finding it very hard to be competitive in his age group and becomes frustrated. I can recognize it as a mental obstacle and a lack of confidence that's preventing the switch from flipping to physicality. We also live in an age of coaches wanting everyone to be a winner and tough coaching doesn't exist anymore. Unfortunately, that problem is worse where we live.
I'm walking a fine line of trying not to be "that parent" and also trying to introduce and coach some physicality into a young man. I didn't have this problem as a kid and am struggling with how to encourage it without going too far. At the end of the day, it may just not be for him, but he'll have to decide that.
Any advice?