DDD
Winter Weatherman
I have noticed in recent months that panhandling around Winder and Bethlehem has gotten BAD. They seem to be begging all around Walmart and the Target / Publix shopping center in Bethlehem.
However, there are two sides of this coin and I am interested to know what you folks think.
First side, I saw this guy with a sign at the Target shopping center. "Hungry - Please help - Anything" I stopped and rolled the window down and I said, "Sir, if you will meet me right up there at McDonald's, I will buy you whatever you want." He folded the sign up and started walking... sorta fast, towards the McDonalds. I parked the truck and he walked in with me.
He stunk.
We walked in McD's and people were looking at him like he didn't belong. He ordered a double cheese burger meal and a large drink. I asked him what he was going to eat tomorrow morning and he shrugged and said, hopefully someone like yourself comes along? I ordered him 2 of those meals so I knew he would have something to eat. We got our food and we sat near the back of the store. He talked and talked and talked. He ate like I do at Longhorns. It couldn't get in his belly fast enough.
Desert storm vet, had a good job until 2009, lost his house, family lives in Mississippi and they are about as poor as he is and can't help him. No wife and no kids. While I am talking to him a man walks over and says, "I heard you say you are a vet, what branch did you serve in? "82nd Airborne" Guy hands him a $20 bill puts his hand on my shoulder, tears running down his face and says, "I know its not much but I've been where you are and somebody gave me $20 one day and now my life is different, don't give up."
I talked to the McDonald's manager and asked her if he could sit there as long as he liked and to please not kick him out and she agreed since he had bought some food and was a "customer". He said he slept behind the Target that he had made a "house" out of pallets, shopping carts and some tarps. His name was Michael. I have not seen him there since. I even looked for him today. I am hoping something good has happened to him and that he's off the street.
Now the other side of the coin. 2 weeks ago I get out of my truck at Publix (same parking lot that Michael was in), my kids are getting out and a woman walks up to me with a note. Note says she can't speak English and needs money to feed her family and it ask for a $5 donation. (The english handwriting is female and VERY good) I say to her, "No habla ingles?" she says, "No Senor" to which I respond, "senora, yo no llevar dinero en efectivo." (Mam, I don't carry cash) with a smile on my face. She jerks the note out of my hand and in english says, "leave me alone" and she hurries off, looking back sort of in anger and maybe embarrassment. Scam.
As well, I have seen men and women begging at the intersections in front of the Winder Wal-mart. Today we saw 2 officers confronting two beggars in front of the Wal-Mart. (man and woman) I was getting gas and just watched, I could not hear what was said. It looked like the officer gave them a ticket. The two officers sent them on their way and they started across the parking lot. They crossed through a few rows of cars and doubled back across the parking lot. I thought they were going back to the corner and then they got in a 4 door decent looking car and pulled out!!! Both smoking cigarettes!!!
So I find myself conflicted. It drives me nuts for people to beg at a corner just to try and beg money out of people's pockets. Then I meet Michael who doesn't have a pot to **** in and all he cares about is his next meal? I am not dumb, I am sure he probably made some bad decisions along the way, but he's not scamming people, he's surviving. Lady is trying to scam me out of money and Michael is living in a makeshift box?
I know I am rambling... but I find myself conflicted. It's so easy not to give these people money because you don't want to be scammed, but when I see a guy that says he's hungry and he OBVIOUSLY is, I can't help but feed him. I had $5 on me and I gave it to Michael. He said he never begs for money but people give it to him. I told him he needed to make him a sign that said, "No Car but I will work" He stopped eating and looked up at me and said, "Do you really think someone will let me work and then bring me back to here?" I said, "Dude, if I had work for you to do, I would." He nodded up and down, chewing his burger... "I need to try that then."
I am hoping it worked for him.
But where is the line? I feel sorry for the cops too. I am sure they see all sorts of sad situations but they have an obligation to follow the law as well and I support them in that 100%. Maybe my hard nose thoughts on this have gotten softened a little bit? However I want to wish a swarm of mad bees on the scammers.
What's the answer? Interested to hear you folks thoughts.
However, there are two sides of this coin and I am interested to know what you folks think.
First side, I saw this guy with a sign at the Target shopping center. "Hungry - Please help - Anything" I stopped and rolled the window down and I said, "Sir, if you will meet me right up there at McDonald's, I will buy you whatever you want." He folded the sign up and started walking... sorta fast, towards the McDonalds. I parked the truck and he walked in with me.
He stunk.
We walked in McD's and people were looking at him like he didn't belong. He ordered a double cheese burger meal and a large drink. I asked him what he was going to eat tomorrow morning and he shrugged and said, hopefully someone like yourself comes along? I ordered him 2 of those meals so I knew he would have something to eat. We got our food and we sat near the back of the store. He talked and talked and talked. He ate like I do at Longhorns. It couldn't get in his belly fast enough.
Desert storm vet, had a good job until 2009, lost his house, family lives in Mississippi and they are about as poor as he is and can't help him. No wife and no kids. While I am talking to him a man walks over and says, "I heard you say you are a vet, what branch did you serve in? "82nd Airborne" Guy hands him a $20 bill puts his hand on my shoulder, tears running down his face and says, "I know its not much but I've been where you are and somebody gave me $20 one day and now my life is different, don't give up."
I talked to the McDonald's manager and asked her if he could sit there as long as he liked and to please not kick him out and she agreed since he had bought some food and was a "customer". He said he slept behind the Target that he had made a "house" out of pallets, shopping carts and some tarps. His name was Michael. I have not seen him there since. I even looked for him today. I am hoping something good has happened to him and that he's off the street.
Now the other side of the coin. 2 weeks ago I get out of my truck at Publix (same parking lot that Michael was in), my kids are getting out and a woman walks up to me with a note. Note says she can't speak English and needs money to feed her family and it ask for a $5 donation. (The english handwriting is female and VERY good) I say to her, "No habla ingles?" she says, "No Senor" to which I respond, "senora, yo no llevar dinero en efectivo." (Mam, I don't carry cash) with a smile on my face. She jerks the note out of my hand and in english says, "leave me alone" and she hurries off, looking back sort of in anger and maybe embarrassment. Scam.
As well, I have seen men and women begging at the intersections in front of the Winder Wal-mart. Today we saw 2 officers confronting two beggars in front of the Wal-Mart. (man and woman) I was getting gas and just watched, I could not hear what was said. It looked like the officer gave them a ticket. The two officers sent them on their way and they started across the parking lot. They crossed through a few rows of cars and doubled back across the parking lot. I thought they were going back to the corner and then they got in a 4 door decent looking car and pulled out!!! Both smoking cigarettes!!!
So I find myself conflicted. It drives me nuts for people to beg at a corner just to try and beg money out of people's pockets. Then I meet Michael who doesn't have a pot to **** in and all he cares about is his next meal? I am not dumb, I am sure he probably made some bad decisions along the way, but he's not scamming people, he's surviving. Lady is trying to scam me out of money and Michael is living in a makeshift box?
I know I am rambling... but I find myself conflicted. It's so easy not to give these people money because you don't want to be scammed, but when I see a guy that says he's hungry and he OBVIOUSLY is, I can't help but feed him. I had $5 on me and I gave it to Michael. He said he never begs for money but people give it to him. I told him he needed to make him a sign that said, "No Car but I will work" He stopped eating and looked up at me and said, "Do you really think someone will let me work and then bring me back to here?" I said, "Dude, if I had work for you to do, I would." He nodded up and down, chewing his burger... "I need to try that then."
I am hoping it worked for him.
But where is the line? I feel sorry for the cops too. I am sure they see all sorts of sad situations but they have an obligation to follow the law as well and I support them in that 100%. Maybe my hard nose thoughts on this have gotten softened a little bit? However I want to wish a swarm of mad bees on the scammers.
What's the answer? Interested to hear you folks thoughts.