basstrkr
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Thoughts and prayers for you OF.
Thank you.Thoughts and prayers for you OF.
Thank you. Today my adult son went with me to check up on her in the hospital. In rare cases people in a vegetative state can be "jump started" by a familiar face or voice or whatever. But her reaction to him was just like it is for me - no response. He even used his phone to play some of her favorite music - still no response. As you can see from the picture in post #43 her cerebrum took major damage. So on Monday I'm going to her "case manager" and have her explain the process of removing the ventilator & feeding tube as per her "medical directive" wishes. The MRI isn't going to happen because it's too big a risk to transfer her to a different hospital for the procedure. But even without an MRI, there is enough corroborating evidence that her future brain functionality has no path to success. I'm quite sure the doctors at the specialty hospital will respect my decision. It's not a pleasant decision, but it's the humane & ethical decision.I cannot imagine your pain and grief. I’m praying for you both. Lord ease their pain and make them well, watch over them and keep them, Amen.
So sorry for your circumstances and the difficult decisions that you have to makeThank you. Today my adult son went with me to check up on her in the hospital. In rare cases people in a vegetative state can be "jump started" by a familiar face or voice or whatever. But her reaction to him was just like it is for me - no response. He even used his phone to play some of her favorite music - still no response. As you can see from the picture in post #43 her cerebrum took major damage. So on Monday I'm going to her "case manager" and have her explain the process of removing the ventilator & feeding tube as per her "medical directive" wishes. The MRI isn't going to happen because it's too big a risk to transfer her to a different hospital for the procedure. But even without an MRI, there is enough corroborating evidence that her future brain functionality has no path to success. I'm quite sure the doctors at the specialty hospital will respect my decision. It's not a pleasant decision, but it's the humane & ethical decision.
My thoughts and condolences to you and your family during this time of pain.Thank you. Today my adult son went with me to check up on her in the hospital. In rare cases people in a vegetative state can be "jump started" by a familiar face or voice or whatever. But her reaction to him was just like it is for me - no response. He even used his phone to play some of her favorite music - still no response. As you can see from the picture in post #43 her cerebrum took major damage. So on Monday I'm going to her "case manager" and have her explain the process of removing the ventilator & feeding tube as per her "medical directive" wishes. The MRI isn't going to happen because it's too big a risk to transfer her to a different hospital for the procedure. But even without an MRI, there is enough corroborating evidence that her future brain functionality has no path to success. I'm quite sure the doctors at the specialty hospital will respect my decision. It's not a pleasant decision, but it's the humane & ethical decision.
Thank you. The most important thing to me is that my family is onboard with my decision. I've been keeping them "in the loop" at every step of this ordeal, and both my kids are realistic & levelheaded. They have handled everything very well and are keeping her impending death in perspective. Both are very familiar with death, but also very familiar with the harsh reality of people living a long time under a severely diminished "quality of life" situation. Medical science can keep people technically "alive" for much longer than at any time in history, but quantity does not always equal quality.So sorry for your circumstances and the difficult decisions that you have to make
Thank you. I'm just focused on keeping all this in perspective.My prayers for you. Your in a tough situation with no easy way out.
Thank you very much for your concern.You are in an nearly impossible position. I will pray for you, her, and your family.