Burial at Sea

Resica

Senior Member
This is a true story, and was published in the Sept. 2007 Marine Corps Gazette. And yes, Every American should read this and appreciate what being a serviceman is all about.

Burial at Sea (Every American Should Read This!) To only those who would and could appreciate it. This account is one of a kind. A powerful one that touches your heart. Tough duty then as it is now.

Burial at Sea by LtCol George Goodson, USMC (Ret)

In my 76th year, the events of my life appear to me, from time to time, as a series of vignettes. Some were significant; most were trivial...
War is the seminal event in the life of everyone that has endured it. Though I fought in Korea and the Dominican Republic and was wounded there, Vietnam was my war.
Now 42 years have passed and, thankfully, I rarely think of those days in Cambodia, Laos, and the panhandle of North Vietnam where small teams of Americans and Montangards fought much larger elements of the North Vietnamese Army. Instead I see vignettes: some exotic, some mundane:
The smell of Nuc Mam.
The heat, dust, and humidity.
The blue exhaust of cycles clogging the streets.
Elephants moving silently through the tall grass.
Hard eyes behind the servile smiles of the villagers.
Standing on a mountain in Laos and hearing a tiger roar.
A young girl squeezing my hand as my medic delivered her baby.
The flowing Ao Dais of the young women biking down Tran Hung Dao.
My two years as Casualty Notification Officer in North Carolina, Virginia, and Maryland.
It was late 1967. I had just returned after 18 months in Vietnam. Casualties were increasing. I moved my family from Indianapolis to Norfolk, rented a house, enrolled my children in their fifth or sixth new school, and bought a second car. A week later, I put on my uniform and drove 10 miles to Little Creek, Virginia. I hesitated before entering my new office. Appearance is important to career
Marines. I was no longer, if ever, a poster Marine. I had returned from my third tour in Vietnam only 30 days before. At 5'9", I now weighed 128 pounds - 37 pounds below my normal weight. My uniforms fit ludicrously, my skin was yellow from malaria medication, and I think I had a twitch or two. I straightened my shoulders, walked into the office, looked at the nameplate on a Staff Sergeant's desk and said, "Sergeant Jolly, I'm Lieutenant Colonel Goodson. Here are my orders and my Qualification Jacket." Sergeant Jolly stood, looked carefully at me, took my orders, stuck out his hand; we shook and he asked, "How long were you there, Colonel?" I replied "18 months this time." Jolly breathed, you must be a slow learner Colonel." I smiled.
Jolly said, "Colonel, I'll show you to your office and bring in the Sergeant Major. I said, "No, let's just go straight to his office." Jolly nodded, hesitated, and lowered his voice, "Colonel, the Sergeant Major. He's been in this job two years. He's packed pretty tight. I'm worried about him." I nodded. Jolly escorted me into the Sergeant Major's office. "Sergeant Major, this is Colonel Goodson, the new Commanding Office. The Sergeant Major stood, extended his hand and said, "Good to see you again, Colonel." I responded, "Hello Walt, how are you?" Jolly looked at me, raised an eyebrow, walked out, and closed the
door.
I sat down with the Sergeant Major. We had the obligatory cup of coffee and talked about mutual acquaintances. Walt's stress was palpable. Finally, I said, "Walt, what's the h-ll's wrong?" He turned his chair, looked out the window and
said, "George, you're going to wish you were back in Nam before you leave here. I've been in the Marine Corps since 1939. I was in the Pacific 36 months, Korea for 14 months, and Vietnam for 12 months... Now I come here to bury these kids. I'm putting my letter in. I can't take it anymore." I said, "OK Walt. If that's what you want, I'll endorse your request for retirement and do what I can to push it through Headquarters Marine Corps."
Sergeant Major Walt Xxxxx retired 12 weeks later. He had been a good Marine for 28 years, but he had seen too much death and too much suffering. He was used up.
Over the next 16 months, I made 28 death notifications, conducted 28 military funerals, and made 30 notifications to the families of Marines that were severely wounded or missing in action. Most of the details of those casualty
>>>notifications have now, thankfully, faded from memory. Four, however, remain.
MY FIRST NOTIFICATION
My third or fourth day in Norfolk, I was notified of the death of a 19 year old Marine. This notification came by telephone from Headquarters Marine Corps. The information detailed:

Name, rank, and serial number.
Name, address, and phone number of next of kin.
Date of and limited details about the Marine's death.
Approximate date the body would arrive at the Norfolk Naval Air Station.
A strong recommendation on whether the casket should be opened or closed.

The boy's family lived over the border in North Carolina, about 60 miles away...I drove there in a Marine Corps staff car. Crossing the state line into North Carolina, I stopped at a small country store / service station / Post Office. I
went in to ask directions. Three people were in the store. A man and woman approached the small Post Office window. The man held a package. The Storeowner walked up and addressed them by name, "Hello John. Good morning Mrs. Cooper."
I was stunned. My casualty's next-of-kin's name was John Cooper! I hesitated, then stepped forward and said, "I beg your pardon. Are you Mr. and Mrs. John Cooper of (address.)
The father looked at me-I was in uniform - and then, shaking, bent at the waist, he vomited. His wife looked horrified at him and then at me. Understanding came into her eyes and she collapsed in slow motion. I think I caught her before she hit the floor. The owner took a bottle of whiskey out of a drawer and handed it to Mr. Cooper who drank. I answered their questions for a few minutes. Then I drove them home in my staff car. The storeowner locked the store and followed in their truck. We stayed an hour or so until the family began arriving. I returned the storeowner to his business. He thanked me and said, "Mister, I wouldn't have your job for a million dollars." I shook his hand and said; "Neither would I."
I vaguely remember the drive back to Norfolk. Violating about five Marine Corps regulations, I drove the staff car straight to my house. I sat with my family while they ate dinner, went into the den, closed the door, and sat there all night, alone.
My Marines steered clear of me for days. I had made my first death notification.

THE FUNERALS
Weeks passed with more notifications and more funerals. I borrowed Marines from the local Marine Corps Reserve and taught them to conduct a military funeral: how to carry a casket, how to fire the volleys and how to fold the flag.
When I presented the flag to the mother, wife, or father, I always said, "All Marines share in your grief." I had been instructed to say, "On behalf of a grateful nation...." I didn't think the nation was grateful, so I didn't say that.
Sometimes, my emotions got the best of me and I couldn't speak. When that happened, I just handed them the flag and touched a shoulder. They would look at me and nod. Once a mother said to me, "I'm so sorry you have this terrible job." My eyes filled with tears and I leaned over and kissed her.

ANOTHER NOTIFICATION
Six weeks after my first notification, I had another. This was a young PFC. I drove to his mother's house. As always, I was in uniform and driving a Marine Corps staff car. I parked in front of the house, took a deep breath, and walked towards the house. Suddenly the door flew open, a middle-aged woman rushed out. She looked at me and ran across the yard, screaming "NO! NO! NO! NO!"I hesitated. Neighbors came out. I ran to her, grabbed her, and whispered stupid things to reassure her. She collapsed. I picked her up and carried her into the house. Eight or nine neighbors followed. Ten or fifteen later, the father came in followed by ambulance personnel. I have no recollection of leaving.
The funeral took place about two weeks later. We went through the drill. The mother never looked at me. The father looked at me once and shook his head sadly.

ANOTHER NOTIFICATION
One morning, as I walked in the office, the phone was ringing. Sergeant Jolly held the phone up and said, "You've got another one, Colonel." I nodded, walked into my office, picked up the phone, took notes, thanked the officer making the call, I have no idea why, and hung up. Jolly, who had listened, came in with a special Telephone Directory that translates telephone numbers into the person's address and place of employment. The father of this casualty was a Longshoreman. He lived a mile from my office. I called the Longshoreman's Union Office and asked for the Business Manager. He answered the phone, I told him who I was, and asked for the father's schedule. The Business Manager asked, "Is it his son?" I said nothing. After a moment, he
said, in a low voice, "Tom is at home today." I said, "Don't call him. I'll take care of that." The Business Manager said, "Aye, Aye Sir," and then explained,
"Tom and I were Marines in WWII." I got in my staff car and drove to the house. I was in uniform. I knocked and a woman in her early forties answered the door. I saw instantly that she was clueless. I asked, "Is Mr. Smith home?" She smiled pleasantly and responded, "Yes, but he's eating breakfast now. Can you come back later?" I said, "I'm sorry. It's important. I need to see him now." She nodded, stepped back into the beach house and said, "Tom, it's for you." A moment later, a ruddy man in his late forties, appeared at the door. He looked at me, turned absolutely pale, steadied himself, and said, "Jesus Christ man, he's only been there three weeks!"
Months passed. More notifications and more funerals. Then one day while I was running, Sergeant Jolly stepped outside the building and gave a loud whistle, two fingers in his mouth... I never could do that… and held an imaginary phone
to his ear. Another call from Headquarters Marine Corps. I took notes, said, "Got it." and hung up. I had stopped saying "Thank You" long ago. Jolly, "Where?" Me, "Eastern Shore of Maryland. The father is a retired Chief Petty Officer. His brother will accompany the body back from Vietnam..." Jolly shook his head slowly, straightened, and then said, "This time of day, it'll take three hours to get there and back. I'll call the Naval Air Station and borrow a helicopter. And I'll have Captain Tolliver get one of his men to meet you and drive you to the Chief's home." He did, and 40 minutes later, I was knocking on the father's door. He opened the door, looked at me, then looked at the Marine standing at parade rest beside the car, and asked, "Which one of my boys was it, Colonel?"
I stayed a couple of hours, gave him all the information, my office and home phone number and told him to call me, anytime. He called me that evening about 2300 (11:00PM). "I've gone through my boy's papers and found his will. He asked to be buried at sea. Can you make that happen?" I said, "Yes I can, Chief. I can and I will." My wife who had been listening said, "Can you do that?" I told her, "I have no idea. But I'm going to break my axx trying."
I called Lieutenant General Alpha Bowser, Commanding General, Fleet Marine Force Atlantic, at home about 2330, explained the situation, and asked, "General, can you get me a quick appointment with the Admiral at Atlantic Fleet Headquarters?" General Bowser said," George, you be there tomorrow at 0900. He will see you. I was and the Admiral did. He said coldly, "How can the Navy help the Marine
Corps, Colonel." I told him the story. He turned to his Chief of Staff and said, "Which is the sharpest destroyer in port?" The Chief of Staff responded with a name.
The Admiral called the ship, "Captain, you're going to do a burial at sea. You'll report to a Marine Lieutenant Colonel Goodson until this mission is completed..." He hung up, looked at me, and said, "The next time you need a ship, Colonel, call me. You don't have to sic Al Bowser on my axx." I responded, "Aye Aye, Sir" and got the h-ll out of his office.
I went to the ship and met with the Captain, Executive officer, and the Senior Chief. Sergeant Jolly and I trained the ship's crew for four days. Then Jolly raised a question none of us had thought of. He said, "These government caskets are air tight. How do we keep it from floating?" All the high priced help including me sat there looking dumb. Then the Senior Chief stood and said, "Come on Jolly. I know a bar where the retired guys from World War II hang out." They returned a couple of hours later, slightly the worst for wear, and said, "It's simple; we cut four 12" holes in the outer shell of the casket on each side and insert 300 lbs of lead in the foot end of the casket. We can handle that, no sweat."
The day arrived. The ship and the sailors looked razor sharp. General Bowser, the Admiral, a US Senator, and a Navy Band were on board. The sealed casket was brought aboard and taken below for modification. The ship got underway to the 12-fathom depth. The sun was hot. The ocean flat. The casket was brought aft and placed on a catafalque. The Chaplin spoke. The volleys were fired. The flag was removed, folded, and I gave it to the father. The band played "Eternal Father Strong to Save." The casket was raised slightly at the head and it slid into the sea. The heavy casket plunged straight down about six feet. The incoming water collided with the air pockets in the outer shell. The casket stopped abruptly, rose straight out of the water about three feet, stopped, and slowly slipped
back into the sea. The air bubbles rising from the sinking casket sparkled in the in the sunlight as the casket disappeared from sight forever....
The next morning I called a personal friend, Lieutenant General Oscar Peatross, at Headquarters Marine Corps and said, "General, get me out of here. I can't take this anymore." I was transferred two weeks later. I was a good Marine but, after 17 years, I had seen too much death and too much suffering. I was used up.
Vacating the house, my family and I drove to the office in a two-car convoy. I said my goodbyes. Sergeant Jolly walked out with me. He waved at my family, looked at me with tears in his eyes, came to attention, saluted, and said, "Well Done, Colonel. Well Done."
I felt as if I had received the Medal of Honor!

A veteran is someone who, at one point, wrote a blank check made payable to 'The United States of America' for an amount of ‘up to and including their life.'
That is Honor, and there are way too many people in this country who no longer understand it.

Thank God For Small Favors and for people who care.

If you can't stand behind our troops, try standing in front of them
 

Pop

Senior Member
As a veteran, let me say one thing. xxxx good post, I appreciate it and I hope everyone on this forum reads it and understands exactly what each one of those guys gave for each and every American citizen.

I had to do a few funeral details in my day and believe me I will never forget the looks in the eyes of the mother and family members.

God Bless the American GI:flag::flag:
 

jmfauver

Senior Member
Each and everyday a member of the United States Armed Forces dies while performing the duty they swore to do. It saddens me that many think it is okay to protest or mock these men and women who gave their lives to protect our freedoms.

Many on this forum are Veterans or are supporting loved ones who are currently serving this great nation,to all of you,from this veteran, I offer my firmest hand shake and a pat on the back for allowing me to do the things I love.
 

nkbigdog

Senior Member
I have been a member of Nam Knights America Mc for 10 yrs now. We are Viet Nam Veterans or Lawenforcement or both. I and my brothers help Veterans, It is a labor of love and respect. I am leaving this morning to hold a party in Florida at the Veterans home outside New Port Ritchy. We have a big party cookout for the Veterans there and in Milledgeville in Sept. To all the Viet Nam veterans that served in Country a personel WELCOME HOME!!!!!! To All our Veterans Thankyou for your service.
 

Mud Minnow

Senior Member
In the Navy as a Gunners Mate I was involved in a few burrials at sea. Most of the ones we did we're Vets who at one point requested that when they're time came they would like to be burried at sea. The service was an awsome honor. The whole thing was video taped for the family. Standing there in my dress blues with my M-14 with six other GM's performing the 21 gun salute, when taps was played it was difficult not to get teary eyed. I would like to thanks each and every Vet from a Vet. We all know the sacrifice and cost! God Bless!!:flag:
 

crackerdave

Senior Member
I was classified 4-F at the induction physical with a number 11 in the draft lottery. My hearing kept me from serving in Viet Nam,but I understand what honor is.I have great respect for anyone who has served- combat or not. I pray for all veterans, especially those who have been "used up."There is no way I can ever thank them enough.
 

Jeff C.

Chief Grass Master
Never served....got a draft card when I hit 18, thought I was going to Nam. I was just a little too young, they had started to pull out. I'll never forget watching the News of the casualties on a daily basis over there.

I have all the respect in the World for our Vets and those that are currently serving....:flag:
 

JustUs4All

Slow Mod
Staff member
Man that was a tough read. God bless them all.
 

Tugboat1

Senior Member
Man that was a tough read. God bless them all.

I second that. My father, a two tour Nam vet, was buried with full honors and I can't hear taps without getting choked up. God bless the men who serve our country in the military.
 

testdepth

Banned
:flag: God bless all of our Veterans. Too many people forget that we have an all volunteer military force that joins to keep America free.

I have two Uncles that were Airforce. The one was a helicopter pilot in VIETNAM. My father was a SEABEE. My brother and sister both served in the Army. I did 20yrs punching holes in the ocean on submarines.

I met an Army officer like the one in the story. He came to tell my father and me that my sister had been killed. You could see the pain in his face for having to be the one to tell us. A huge burden and I wouldn't want that job either.

Personally I have been involved with trying to wake a fellow young submariner from the coma he was in by recording sounds a submariner hears while underway. The parents wanted to play it in hopes he would respond. We never heard the outcome but we were very proud and touched to provide that service.

Military service is a brotherhood that you will only know by serving.

JD
USN RET
 

Keebs

Miss Moderator Ma Hen
Staff member
:flag::flag:Thank you, one & all, past & present!:flag::flag:
 

jigman29

Senior Member
I have a friend that I have known since I was 14 over in the war zone who is a door gunner on a helicopter and a cousin who is on foot patrol and is a point man and I worry everyday that their families will get a visit from a man in uniform.I couldn't imagine having to deliver that kind of message to people on a regular basis I would be drove crazy.I just thank god that the american people support our troops way better than the people in the 60's and 70's did.
 

Gentleman4561

Senior Member
God bless our veterans
 

anicho

Member
Thought of my grandfather as I read the post. He fought in many WWII battles including the battle of the bulge. He was laid to rest with full military honors and as mentioned in other posts the sound of TAPS brings a tear to my eye. I am so proud to say that I am his grandson. Thank you pap and all the brave souls that has protected the families of this great country.
 

grunt0331

Senior Member
I was a CACO (casualty notification officer) for 2 weeks. You sit up all night praying that the phone never rings and the beeper never goes off. Worst duty I ever had. The casualty notification teams and the mortuary affairs groups are an overlooked piece of our military that execute a duty no one in their right minds volunteer for.
 

gobbleinwoods

Keeper of the Magic Word
If you have ever worn the uniform, you will hang on every word of the post. Moving.
 

boneboy96

Senior Member
I worked funeral detail during the last 3 weeks of my Naval Career while being out-processed at Norfolk naval Station. I had to attend 2 funerals during those 3 weeks as part of the Color Guard. I disliked those 3 weeks the worst out of all of the 4 years I served.
 
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