If the church rules forbid it then let them enforce their rules, its really none of anyones buisiness. With churches popping up all over the place that tickle the ear and cater more to what man wants a different church should not be hard for her to find.
if he came in and took it upon himself to change the by-laws then he is in the wrong. If it was voted on by the Church then she is in the wrong. A PReacher is still a man and can be wrong.