jmharris23
Moderator
Imagine you were some fella in the back row who was shy and quiet, had spent a few years in church, but never really established a relationship with anybody. Imagine you did not tithe faithfully. Imagine that you were not in the band. Imagine that the pastor still didn't know the names of your kids.........
.....would those same men have gone to the same lengths for you? Maybe, maybe not.
JB, I am just gonna be honest and say no, they probably would not. But I hope to give you a little insight here.
The church I pastor has around 300 attenders though only around 200-250 show up each week. Some of them are on the 1st and 3rd Sunday rotation I think
That said, even in a church as small as mine, it is nearly impossible to be "intensely involved" in the life of that many people.
The people's whose lives I tend to be involved in are those who for various reasons ...."stand out."
What I mean by this is either they are leaders in the church, i.e. deacons, elders, SS teachers....etc. or they come to me and ask me to be involved with them in some sort of way.
If I have a fella that slips into the worship service on Sunday morning as it begins, and runs to his car as soon as the service is over, and never joins a small group of some sort, then the chances are good that I nor any other church leader will be very involved in his life. I have always made the assumption that if that if that shy, quiet guy sat on the back row for a while and never got himself involved in the church in a deeper way, then he probably didn't want to be?
Am I wrong here?